iglasi yokukhulisa, uphando, fumana

Ukuba unesizathu sokukrokrela ukwenza okubi kumbutho wakho, ungacinga ngokwenza uphando lwangaphakathi. Ukuba yenziwe ngokufanelekileyo, uphando lwangaphakathi olulungileyo lunokukunceda uqonde ngcono okwenzekayo, ulungise imiba emileyo, kwaye uzibekele impumelelo, nokuba ufumana ntoni na.

Kodwa lusebenza njani kanye kanye uphando lwangaphakathi? Kutheni ziqalwa nje? Kwaye uqinisekisa njani ukuba uphando lwakho lwangaphakathi luphumelele?

Kutheni Kuqalwa uPhando lwaNgaphakathi?

Kunye namagqwetha, abaphandi, kunye nezinye iingcali, naliphi na ishishini, iziko likarhulumente, okanye omnye umbutho unokuqalisa uphando lwangaphakathi. Ngokubanzi, kukho iinjongo ezintathu eziphambili:

  • Qinisekisa ukuba ubugwenxa benzeke. Ukuqhuba uphando lombutho wakho kufuneka kukuvumele ukuba ufumanise ukuba ngaba ubugwenxa buyenzeka. Ukuba umbutho wakho utyholwa ngokwenza ulwaphulo-mthetho, okanye ukuba uye wawa ekuthobeleni, eli lithuba lakho lokuqokelela iinyani kwaye ubone ukuba yintoni kanye eyenzekayo.
  • Lungisa imeko (ukuba kuyimfuneko). Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kuya kuba lithuba lokulungisa imeko. Ukuba kukho umntu obekek’ ityala, unokumohlwaya. Ukuba kukho inkqubo okanye ingxaki yesakhiwo kumbutho wakho, ungayilungisa. Ukuba awusathobeli, ungazisa umbutho wakho ukuba ukruquke.
  • Yakha indlela yokuzikhusela. Eli ikwalithuba lokwakha ukhuselo lombutho wakho, ngakumbi ukuba ujongene nezityholo zolwaphulo-mthetho okanye izohlwayo. Ukuba unokubonisa ukuba uphendule isikhalazo okanye inkxalabo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, unokukhusela ngempumelelo nokukhusela umbutho wakho.

IziGaba zoPhando lwaNgaphakathi

Izigaba zophando lwangaphakathi zihamba ngolu hlobo:

  • Ulwaluko. Zininzi iindlela uphando olunokuqaliswa ngalo. Isenokusuka kwisikhalazo esingaziwa mntu, isityholo somxeli, okanye umbuzo ovela komnye wabatyali-zimali bakho okanye ochaphazelekayo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba inkokeli kwiqela lakho iqalise uphando ukuba banezizathu zokurhanela ukuba kukho into engalunganga eyenzekileyo.
  • Ukuchaza umda kunye neenjongo. Okulandelayo, uya kuchaza ububanzi kunye neenjongo zolu phando. Yintoni kanye kanye ozama ukuyifumanisa? Uza kuyiqonda njani? Zeziphi iintlobo zobungqina ojonge ukuziqokelela, kwaye uza kubuqokelela njani?
  • Ukudibanisa iqela. Awunako ukwenza uphando olupheleleyo lwangaphakathi uwedwa. Endaweni yoko, kuya kufuneka usebenze namagqwetha, abaphandi, iingcali ze-niche, kunye nezinye iingcali ukuze ubambe ubungqina obugcweleyo kwaye udibanise ezo ziphumo ngokufanelekileyo.
  • Ukuphanda. Ngexesha lesigaba sophando, uya kuqokelela nabuphi na ubungqina obunokufaneleka kwiinjongo zakho. Unokwenza udliwano-ndlebe kunye nabasebenzi bakho kunye noonxibelelwano lobuchwephesha, unokuphonononga ubungqina bezomthetho, kwaye unokugrumba nzulu kwiirekhodi zakho ukufumanisa yonke into eyenzekileyo kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo.
  • Ukuqokelela kunye nokuhlanganisa ubungqina. Nje ukuba ube nethuba lokuhlela kuzo zonke ezi ziqwenga zobungqina, ungahlanganisa amaqhekeza afanelekileyo ukwenza umfanekiso ohambelanayo wale meko. Ngobungqina obucwangcisiweyo kwaye buhlanganisiwe, uya kuba nexesha elilula kakhulu lokugqiba ukuba wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo.
  • Ukuhlalutya kunye nokunika ingxelo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, iqela liya kuhlalutya ubungqina kwaye lenze ingxelo esemthethweni. Le ngxelo iya kushwankathela imeko kwaye inokuthi icebise ukuba wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo.
  • Ukuphonononga kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo. Ngeli xesha, iinkokeli kwiqela lakho ziya kuphonononga lonke ulwazi kwaye zithathe isigqibo sokuba zifuna ukuthatha inyathelo njani. Oku kunokubandakanya ukwenza utshintsho kwiinkqubo zangaphakathi kunye namaqela, okanye ukulungiselela ukukhusela ngokusemthethweni, phakathi kwezinye izenzo.

Izitshixo zoPhando lwaNgaphakathi oluyimpumelelo

Ezi zezinye zezona zitshixo zibalulekileyo ekuqaliseni uphando lwangaphakathi oluyimpumelelo:

  • Iqela. Uninzi lwempumelelo yakho ixhomekeke kwiqela olihlanganisele ukwenza uphando. Ukusebenza namagqwetha anobuchule, abahlalutyi, kunye nabaphandi banokuqinisekisa ukuba inkqubo yakho ibanzi ngakumbi. Yenza inkuthalo yakho ngaphambi kokuba uqeshe nabani na.
  • Iinjongo. Kufuneka kwakhona ubeke iinjongo ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba awunalo umkhombandlela ocacileyo wophando lwakho, okanye ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba yeyiphi imibuzo omawuyibuze, awuzukufikelela kwizigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
  • Imfihlo. Uphando lwangaphakathi lusoloko luqhutywa kuba luhlala luyimfihlo kwaye lunika umbutho ixesha lokuthatha inyathelo. Ngokufanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba uphando lwakho lwangaphakathi luyimfihlo ngokupheleleyo kwaye alubonwa luluntu.
  • Ukungathathi cala kunye nenjongo. Ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela, kufuneka usebenze Ukungathathi hlangothi kunye nenjongo kuphando lwakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba imibutho ibe nomkhethe okanye ingazihoyi izinto ezibonakala ziqhelekile. Kuya kufuneka ulwe nezi mpembelelo kwaye uhlale ungakhethi cala kangangoko kule nkqubo.

Uphando lwangaphakathi alusoloko luyimfuneko, kodwa lunokunceda umbutho wakho ukuba uzibeke kwindawo yawo ukuba ukhe watyholwa ngokwenza okubi. Qiniseka nje ukuba uhlanganisa iqela elifanelekileyo kwaye ugcine ugxininiso olunenjongo kweyona migaqo ibalulekileyo.