Ubwenzi umayenda bwino mukalankhulana momveka bwino komanso momasuka. Othandizana nawo akamalankhulana bwino, amapanga malo otetezeka omvetsetsana, kudalirana, ndi kukula kwamalingaliro. Komano, kusagwirizana, nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa mikangano yosafunikira komanso kutalikirana kwamalingaliro. Mwa kuika kulankhulana patsogolo, okwatirana angapeŵe kukwiyirana ndi kulimbikitsa malo achikondi ndi ochirikizana.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pakuyankhulirana ndikuwonetsetsa kuti onse awiri akumva kuti amamvedwa komanso kuyamikiridwa. Kumvetsera mwachidwi, kufotokoza zakukhosi momangirira, kuyenderana pafupipafupi, komanso kumvetsetsa zongolankhula ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe zingathandize kwambiri kulumikizana pakati pa okondedwa. Kuonjezera apo, kufufuza njira zatsopano zowonjezera chiyanjano ndi kugwirizana kungakhale kopindulitsa. Kwa maanja omwe akufuna nzeru ndi zothandizira, xfantazy imapereka chitsogozo chofunikira pakukulitsa maubale.
Yang'anirani Kumvetsera Mwachangu
Kumvetsera mwachidwi sikungomva zomwe wokondedwa wanu akunena - ndikukhalapo kwathunthu ndikukambirana. Mikangano yambiri imabwera pamene wina akumva kuti sanamve kapena kuchotsedwa. Mukamvetsera mwachidwi, mumasonyeza mnzanuyo kuti maganizo awo ndi malingaliro ake ndi ofunika, kulimbitsa chikhulupiliro ndi mgwirizano wamaganizo mu ubale wanu.
Njira Zomvera Mwachangu
Kuti muphunzire kumvetsera mwachidwi, ganizirani njira zotsatirazi:
- Yang'anani maso kusonyeza chidwi ndi chinkhoswe.
- Pewani kumudula mawu pamene mnzako akulankhula.
- Ganizirani zomwe mwamva, kufotokoza mwachidule mawu a mnzanuyo kuti mutsimikizire kumvetsetsa.
- Gwiritsani ntchito mawu otsimikizira monga kugwedeza mutu kapena kunena "Ndamva."
- Funsani mafunso omveketsa bwino kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukumvetsa zonse zomwe zikunenedwa.
Pogwiritsa ntchito njirazi, mumapanga malo omwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mumamva kuti ndinu ofunika komanso omveka.
Gwiritsirani Ntchito Mawu a "I" Kuti Mufotokoze Zomwe Mukumvera
Pokambirana nkhani zovuta, momwe mumafotokozera mawu anu kungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu. M'malo mogwiritsa ntchito mawu odzudzula, omwe nthawi zambiri amatsogolera ku chitetezo, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "I" kumakupatsani mwayi wofotokoza zakukhosi kwanu popanda kupangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuti akuimba mlandu.
Kupanga Mawu Ogwira Ntchito "Ine".
Mawu okonzedwa bwino a "I" amatsatira njira yosavuta iyi:
"Ndimamva [kutengeka] pamene [zochitika] chifukwa [chifukwa]."
Mwachitsanzo:
- “Ndimakhumudwa maganizo anga akamachotsedwa chifukwa zimandipangitsa kudziona kuti ndine wosafunika.”
- “Ndimathedwa nzeru pamene ntchito zapakhomo sizikugaŵidwa chifukwa ndimafuna chichirikizo.”
Kugwiritsa ntchito ziganizo za "Ine" kumalimbikitsa kukambirana momasuka ndipo kumathandiza onse awiri kuti athetse vuto popanda kufika pa mikangano.
Konzani Ma Check-Ins Okhazikika
Maanja ambiri amangokambirana pakakhala mavuto, koma kuyankhulana mosamalitsa kungathandize kuti kusamvana kusakhale mikangano. Kupatula nthawi yoyang'ana maubwenzi pafupipafupi kumapereka mwayi wokambirana zakukhosi, kuthana ndi nkhawa, ndikukondwerera zomwe mwakwaniritsa limodzi.
Kupanga Ma Check-Ins Anu
Kuti zokambiranazi zikhale zogwira mtima:
- Sankhani nthawi yoyenera (mwachitsanzo, sabata iliyonse kapena mwezi uliwonse) kulankhula popanda zododometsa.
- Gwiritsani ntchito mawonekedwe okhazikika zomwe zimaphatikizapo kukambirana zabwino, zovuta, ndi zolinga.
- Pangani malo otetezeka pomwe onse awiri amamasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo.
- Pewani kuganizira kwambiri zinthu zoipa-vomerezaninso mphamvu mu ubale wanu.
Kuyendera pafupipafupi kumathandiza kuti nkhani zing'onozing'ono zisakule ndikupangitsa maanja kukhala ogwirizana m'malingaliro ndi m'malingaliro.
Samalani ndi Kuyankhulana Kwapakamwa
Mawu si njira yokhayo imene timalankhulirana—mawonekedwe a thupi lathu, kawonekedwe ka nkhope, ndi kamvekedwe ka mawu, zonse zimakhudza kwambiri mmene uthenga wathu umaonera. Nthawi zambiri, kuyankhulana mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu kungavumbulutse zambiri kuposa mawu okha.
Kutanthauzira Zizindikiro Zosalankhula
Kuti muwongolere kuzindikira kwanu kwa mawu osalankhula, tcherani khutu ku:
- Maonekedwe a nkhope - Pamphumi pakhoza kusonyeza kupsinjika maganizo kapena nkhawa, pamene kumwetulira kumawonetsa kutentha ndi kumasuka.
- Kukhazikika kwa thupi - Kuwoloka manja kungasonyeze chitetezo, pamene kuyankhula momasuka kumasonyeza kumvetsera.
- Toni ya mawu - Liwu laukali limatha kuwonetsa kukhumudwa, ngakhale mawu atakhala osalowerera.
- Kukhudza thupi - Manja ang'onoang'ono monga kugwirana manja amatha kulimbikitsa kulumikizana kwamalingaliro.
Kukumbukira zizindikirozi kungathandize okondedwa kuti amvetsetse bwino komanso kupewa kutanthauzira molakwika komwe kungayambitse mikangano.
Kutsiliza
Kupititsa patsogolo kulankhulana muubwenzi ndi njira yopitilira yomwe imafuna khama kuchokera kwa onse awiri. Poyesera kumvetsera mwachidwi, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Ine", kukonzekera nthawi zonse, ndikukumbukira zomwe sizimalankhula, maanja amatha kulimbikitsa mgwirizano wawo ndikuthana ndi zovuta bwino.
Pophatikiza njira zothandiza izi muzochita zatsiku ndi tsiku, okwatirana amatha kupanga ubale wabwino, wokhutiritsa wokhazikika pa kulemekezana, kumvetsetsana, ndi chikondi.
